When Do I Know When I Am Ready To Get Married?
Asalamwalikum (Peace Be Upon You). Many people ask themselves or people the question, “When do I know if I am ready to get married?” The question you have to ask yourself is, why are you pursuing marriage? You have friends that have just gotten married and you are caught in the hype? You are genuinely looking to get married? You are fascinated by marriage? There are a lot of reasons why people intend to get married. Your intention has to be right whether you are young or old. A lot of times, especially with young people, they think they are ready for marriage but they are not and it causes a lot heart ache in the long run and it may or may not affect you psychologically for the next person who may have pure intentions for marriage.
1. Concentrate on yourself and correct your intention. Make sure it is what you want and not just because there are summer weddings you’ve attended or because your friends are getting married and you think you are ready too. We attend weddings and we become fascinated by all the things that happen. We see two couples happy, two families happy and everyone is having a great time. We see the happiness in the face of the couple and it is what we desire, until the feeling wears off. We believe we are ready for marriage but a lot of times, our intention is not correct. We simply have the desire to get married because others are. Another reason is because we have several problems in our lives. Whether it has to do with our eman (faith), not praying salah, emotional and psychological problems and getting married won’t a lot of times solve your issues. You are only looking to get married to solve the issues and share your burden. That is not to say, being married you aren’t allow to share the burden with your spouse but this should not the be sole reason why you are pursuing marriage. Your intention has to be right, you want to get married for the correct reasons.
An Amazing Du’aa Not to Be Missed After Fajr and Maghrib For Protection From Shaitaan
Narration About Fajr Prayer
The Messenger of Allaah (ﷺ) said, “Whoever says at the end of every Fajr prayer, while his feet are still folded, before speaking:
‘None has the right to be worshipped but Allaah, Alone without partner, to Him belongs all that exists, and to Him is the praise. He gives life and causes death, and He is powerful over all things.
لاَ إِلَهَ إِلاَّ اللَّهُ وَحْدَهُ لاَ شَرِيكَ لَهُ لَهُ الْمُلْكُ وَلَهُ الْحَمْدُ يُحْيِي وَيُمِيتُ وَهُوَ عَلَى كُلِّ شَيْءٍ قَدِيرٌ
Lā ilāha illallāh, waḥdahu lā sharīka lahu, lahul-mulku wa lahul-ḥamdu, yuḥyī wa yumītu, wa huwa alā kulli shay’in qadīr
ten times, then ten good deeds shall be written for him, ten evil deeds shall be wiped away from him, ten degrees shall be raised up for him, and he shall be in security all that day from every disliked thing—and he shall be in protection from Shaitaan—, and no sin will meet him or destroy him that day, except for associating partners with Allaah.”
Saheeh at-Targheeb, 472. At-Tirmidhee, Eng. trans., vol. 6, p. 194.
Honour Your Wives
Imam Ridha’ (‘a) narrated from his fathers from Imam Amir ul Mu’mineen ‘Ali (‘a) from the Holy Prophet (S) who said: “Woe to the woman who makes her husband angry, and happy is the woman whose husband is pleasantly contented with her.”
Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 8, p. 310
The Holy Prophet (S) said: “He who has two wives and does not treat justly in dividing his self and his wealth between them, he will be raised on the Resurrection Day while he is chained in punishment and half of his body is not straight until he enters Hell.”
Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 7, p. 214
Imam al-Baqir (‘a) said: “He who takes a woman (marries) should certainly respect her, because the wife of anyone of you is a means of your pleasure, so the one who marries a woman should not spoil or disgrace her (by disregarding her respectable rights).”
Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 103, p. 224
Imam Amir ul Mu’mineen ‘Ali (‘a) said: “In any condition conciliate the wives, and talk with them warmly and through kind words, thereby, they may change their actions into good ones.”
Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 103, p. 223
Imam Musa ibn Ja’far (‘a) narrated from his father (‘a) from the Holy Prophet (S) who said: “However much the Faith of a man increases, his regard for women increases.”
Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 103, p. 228
The Holy Prophet (S) said: “From the things of the world, I regard women and perfume highly, but prayer is the light of my eyes, (the love and worship of Allah).
Al-Khisal, vol. 1, p. 183; Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 76 p. 141
Imam Amir ul Mu’mineen ‘Ali (‘a) said: “The worst man is he who restricts his household.”
Unfounded doubts and fears of action
By: Ayatullah Shaykh Husain Mazaheri
We have categorised waswasa (repeated, unfounded doubts and fears) into two kinds: waswasa of thought and waswasa of action. We have already dealt with the first category. Today we shall talk about waswasa of action.
Sometimes people get excessive doubts about the tasks they are doing. For example: while doing wudhu (ablution), performing the ritual bath (Ghusl),performing the prayers etc. They get doubts whether they have performed these actions strictly in accordance to the set norms or not. Such doubts are very harmful for homes. A person who nurses repeated doubts about his own actions becomes an outcast from the society. He can no longer feel love for his home. Those in the audience who have the tendency of doubting their own actions should give particular attention to this talk.
How The Mainstream Music You Listen To Affects The Frequency and Vibration Of Your Life’s Experiences
By: Chris Wilusz
What musical artists make you feel alive? Which ones inspire you into greatness?
For me, all I have to do is play some Bob Marley in the morning and instantly, my day is set on the highest vibration possible.
The Universe and everything in it is comprised of three main ingredients – Energy, Frequency, and Vibration. Combined, they are the building blocks to consciousness and life itself.
The level or form of consciousness you are at present is directly related to the level of each of these three ingredients.
The Purpose of Life in an Hour and a Half
By: Hamza Yusuf
Given the choice, I would rather read a book than listen to a lecture. Books are wonderful companions: they offer their opinions, and if you disagree, they don’t seem to mind. I can reread when I find difficulty with what is written, and the book doesn’t think I’m stupid or get annoyed that I’m asking it to repeat itself, sometimes again and again. From a great author, I can acquire in a few hours what took him or her a lifetime of reflection and insight to realize. Despite that, on occasion, I have heard lectures that have moved me deeply. Recently, someone sent me a lecture insisting that I watch it. It was by an American convert to Islam (I don’t like the word “revert,” as we don’t revert to Islam; we convert – unless one was a Muslim, left it, and then returned), Dr. Jeffrey Lang, about the purpose of life. I found this lecture to be the most powerful I have ever heard from an American Muslim.
WHY IT (STILL) MAKES LITTLE SENSE TO CALL ISIS ISLAMIC
By: Haroon Moghul
Last week, The New York Times’ Rukmini Callimachi published “A Theology of Rape,” a report as important as it is horrifying. Unfortunately, like several recent exposés on the Islamic State in Iraq and Syria (ISIS), including Graeme Wood’s website-busting What ISIS Really Wants, Callimachi’s reporting is unusually receptive to the movement’s claims. Namely, that plausible Islamic arguments can be made for slavery, rape, and other crimes.
In support of his own argument that ISIS isn’t just “Islamic,” but “very Islamic,” Wood cited Princeton academic Bernard Haykel who insists that anyone who denies ISIS’ Islamic authenticity is being disingenuous (who says this is never elaborated on). Wood then proceeded to analyze ISIS’ “Islamicity” based almost entirely on Haykel, several fringe Muslim scholars, ISIS sympathizers, and no mainstream voices.