Asalamwalikum (Peace Be Upon You). Many people ask themselves or people the question, “When do I know if I am ready to get married?” The question you have to ask yourself is, why are you pursuing marriage? You have friends that have just gotten married and you are caught in the hype? You are genuinely looking to get married? You are fascinated by marriage? There are a lot of reasons why people intend to get married. Your intention has to be right whether you are young or old. A lot of times, especially with young people, they think they are ready for marriage but they are not and it causes a lot heart ache in the long run and it may or may not affect you psychologically for the next person who may have pure intentions for marriage.
1. Concentrate on yourself and correct your intention. Make sure it is what you want and not just because there are summer weddings you’ve attended or because your friends are getting married and you think you are ready too. We attend weddings and we become fascinated by all the things that happen. We see two couples happy, two families happy and everyone is having a great time. We see the happiness in the face of the couple and it is what we desire, until the feeling wears off. We believe we are ready for marriage but a lot of times, our intention is not correct. We simply have the desire to get married because others are. Another reason is because we have several problems in our lives. Whether it has to do with our eman (faith), not praying salah, emotional and psychological problems and getting married won’t a lot of times solve your issues. You are only looking to get married to solve the issues and share your burden. That is not to say, being married you aren’t allow to share the burden with your spouse but this should not the be sole reason why you are pursuing marriage. Your intention has to be right, you want to get married for the correct reasons.
Source: Happy Muslim Family and Friends
Marriage is a highly recommended Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad (saws).
The purpose of marriage in Islam is to increase the Muslim community and not only to enjoy pleasure as Muhammad (saw) said; “Multiply your wives, multiply your children and I shall be proud of you on the Day ofJudgement.”
Although marriage is encouraged in Islam, Allah and his MessengerMuhammad (saw) haven’t left us to our rationality to discover what marriage entails and what things make a successful marriage. Thefollowing few pages highlight what makes a happy marriage based on the Qu’ran and Sunnah and how the husband and wife can gain each othersheart.
Imam Ridha’ (‘a) narrated from his fathers from Imam Amir ul Mu’mineen ‘Ali (‘a) from the Holy Prophet (S) who said: “Woe to the woman who makes her husband angry, and happy is the woman whose husband is pleasantly contented with her.”
Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 8, p. 310
The Holy Prophet (S) said: “He who has two wives and does not treat justly in dividing his self and his wealth between them, he will be raised on the Resurrection Day while he is chained in punishment and half of his body is not straight until he enters Hell.”
Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 7, p. 214
Imam al-Baqir (‘a) said: “He who takes a woman (marries) should certainly respect her, because the wife of anyone of you is a means of your pleasure, so the one who marries a woman should not spoil or disgrace her (by disregarding her respectable rights).”
Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 103, p. 224
Imam Amir ul Mu’mineen ‘Ali (‘a) said: “In any condition conciliate the wives, and talk with them warmly and through kind words, thereby, they may change their actions into good ones.”
Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 103, p. 223
Imam Musa ibn Ja’far (‘a) narrated from his father (‘a) from the Holy Prophet (S) who said: “However much the Faith of a man increases, his regard for women increases.”
Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 103, p. 228
The Holy Prophet (S) said: “From the things of the world, I regard women and perfume highly, but prayer is the light of my eyes, (the love and worship of Allah).
Al-Khisal, vol. 1, p. 183; Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 76 p. 141
Imam Amir ul Mu’mineen ‘Ali (‘a) said: “The worst man is he who restricts his household.”
By: Kim Stern
When you enter into a marriage, you never think about the fact that a large percentage of marriages actually fail. Marriages fail for many reasons and if you’ve had a failed marriage your main reason for failure might be different than most others. However, there are some reasons that are consistent across most failed marriages.
Take a look at my list of the 8 reasons why most fail.
The eyes have desires that have a great tendency to want to be fulfilled, as if there is a gravity-like force that pulls the sight to the things we should not be looking at. Like gravity, those who resist will feel the force acting on them, while those who just go with the flow will feel little or nothing at all. Like gravity, it takes a lot of strength to escape it.
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