Imam Ridha’ (‘a) narrated from his fathers from Imam Amir ul Mu’mineen ‘Ali (‘a) from the Holy Prophet (S) who said: “Woe to the woman who makes her husband angry, and happy is the woman whose husband is pleasantly contented with her.”
Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 8, p. 310
The Holy Prophet (S) said: “He who has two wives and does not treat justly in dividing his self and his wealth between them, he will be raised on the Resurrection Day while he is chained in punishment and half of his body is not straight until he enters Hell.”
Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 7, p. 214
Imam al-Baqir (‘a) said: “He who takes a woman (marries) should certainly respect her, because the wife of anyone of you is a means of your pleasure, so the one who marries a woman should not spoil or disgrace her (by disregarding her respectable rights).”
Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 103, p. 224
Imam Amir ul Mu’mineen ‘Ali (‘a) said: “In any condition conciliate the wives, and talk with them warmly and through kind words, thereby, they may change their actions into good ones.”
Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 103, p. 223
Imam Musa ibn Ja’far (‘a) narrated from his father (‘a) from the Holy Prophet (S) who said: “However much the Faith of a man increases, his regard for women increases.”
Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 103, p. 228
The Holy Prophet (S) said: “From the things of the world, I regard women and perfume highly, but prayer is the light of my eyes, (the love and worship of Allah).
Al-Khisal, vol. 1, p. 183; Bihar-ul-Anwar, vol. 76 p. 141
Imam Amir ul Mu’mineen ‘Ali (‘a) said: “The worst man is he who restricts his household.”
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|Name of Questioner:||Dominick|
|Question:||All the rules of Islam go against the natural urges of the human being, so how can it be a realistic religion? How can God create instincts in us, and then forbid us from doing things we feel like doing? Islam says no drink, no love and no fun… so how do you live? Is there any kind of delight that you are permitted to enjoy? What is happiness in Islam?|
Salam (Peace) Dear Dominick,
Thank you for this interesting question and for contacting Ask About Islam.
In order to answer your question, please allow me to bring forth some facts that are related to the main issue of this question.
The first fact, which I would like you to be aware of, is that, in contrast with other faiths, the general rule in Islam is: ‘Everything is halal (permissible) unless it was made haram (forbidden) by the shari`a (Islamic law). Therefore, haram(forbidden) is the exception and halal (permissible) is the principle.
Secondly, the Islamic Law was not revealed to restrain people, confiscate their freedom, or to make their life hard and miserable. On the contrary, it was revealed to serve an important purpose, which is the “interests of people.” Thus, anything made haram (forbidden) by Islamic Law was made so for the interest of people.