Get married to complete half of your deen(religion) – Hadith

Source: Nikah Mubaruk

Marriage is a union of souls, in the deepest sense that Allah (God) joins two souls together so that they may enjoy tranquility and stability in a marital home filled with sincere love and compassionate mercy

Allah says in Quran:

“Among His Signs Is That He Created Companion ( Mate, Spouse) For You From Among Yourself, So That You May Find Tranquility With Them, And (He) Set Love And Mercy Between You. Surely In This Are Signs For People Who Give Thought” Surah Ar-Rum, 21 (30:21).

Nikah (Marriage) is one of the most important acts of worship (ibadat) in Islam. It is a social obligation, an act which is highly admired by Allah (God) and a Sunnah (the way) of the Blessed Prophet Muhammad( peace be upon him). Allah says in the Qur’an:

Marry off those amongst you who are not married (single or people who don’t have a spoue) and marry those who are capable of marrying from your male and female slaves. If they are poor (then don’t worry) Allah will enrich them out of His grace, Allah (God) is ample giving and All-knowing) . And let those who find not the financial means for marriage keep themselves chaste, until Allah enriches them of His Bounty

(Chapter 24 Sura Noor, Verse 32-33)

Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu layhi Wasallam) has told us how to live as a Muslim, and one of the branches of faith is marriage. It has been thus narrated in the Hadeeth stated above that when a person marries, he has complete half of his religion and so he should fear Allah regarding the remaining half.. Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3096 Narrated by Anas ibn Malik

Allah’s Messenger (saws) said, “When a man marries he has fulfilled half of the Deen (religion); so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half.”

Shame, modesty, moral and social values and control of self desire are just a few of the many teachings of Islam. Furthermore, these are just a few of the many worships that a person can complete by performing the ritual of marriage. Through marriage a person can be saved from many shameless and immoral sins and through marriage he has is more able to control his desire. Therefore, the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) has said:

“O young men! Whoever is able to marry should marry, for that will help him to lower his gaze and guard his modesty.” [Saheeh al-Bukhari]

Marriage is a strong oath that takes place between the man and women in this world, but its blessings and contract continues even in Jannah. It is the way of our beloved Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam), and whosoever goes against this practice has been reprimanded.

Hadhrat Anas ibn Malik narrates:

A group of three men came to the houses of the wives of the Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu layhi Wasallam) asking how the Prophet worshipped (Allah), and when they were informed about that, they considered their worship insufficient and said:

“Where are we from the Prophet as his past and future sins have been forgiven.”

Then one of them said: “I will offer the prayer throughout the night forever.”

The other said: “I will fast throughout the year and will not break my fast.”

The third said: “I will keep away from the women and will not marry forever.”

Allah’s Apostle came to them and said, “Are you the same people who said so-and-so? By Allah, I am more submissive to Allah and more afraid of Him than you; yet I fast and break my fast, I do sleep and I also marry women. So he who does not follow my tradition in religion, is not from me (from my followers).” [Saheeh al-Bukhari]

Prophet Muhammad (S) considered simple weddings the best weddings:

‘The best wedding is that upon which the least trouble and expense is bestowed”. (Mishkat)

Therefore, Islamically, we are all encouraged to get married and not turn away from the ways of our beloved Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Salaam). It should be remembered that this duty of marriage is for both men and women. Just as men complete half their religion through this act, it is also the same for women. However, in today’s time, there are many marriage-related issues which arise in people’s life, as today we see many people abusing the laws of marriage in Islam.

When marrying, each becomes the other’s lifetime companion. Each should understand and appreciate that Allah has brought them both together and that their destiny in life has now become one. Whatever the circumstances: happiness or sorrow; health or sickness; wealth or poverty; comfort or hardship; trial or ease; all events are to be confronted together as a team with mutual affection and respect. No matter how wealthy, affluent, materially prosperous and “better-off” another couple may appear, one’s circumstances are to be happily accepted with qanã‘at (contentment upon the Choice of Allah). The wife should happily accept her husband, his home and income as her lot and should always feel that her husband is her true beloved and best friend and well-wisher in all family decisions. The husband too should accept his wife as his partner-for-life and not cast a glance towards another.

Allah’s Messenger Muhammad(Sallallaahu layhi Wasallam) said, “The best of you is he who is best to his family”. (Mishkat)

It is necessary to consider advice of Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu layhi Wasallam) while choosing a spouse which is to select a person for marriage on the bais of his/her character (taqwa or fear of Allah). It was the noble practice of Nabi (Sallallaahu layhi Wasallam) to conscientise the spouses about the fear for Allah before performing a Nikah by reciting the verses (Nisa v14, Ahzab v69, Al-Imraan v101) from the Quran. All the verses are common in the message of Taqwa (fear of Allah). The spouses will be first committed to Allah before being committed to their partner. There can be no doubt in the success of a marriage governed by the fear of Allah. We hope and wish every person a very happy and prosperous married life. May peace and Allah’s blessing be upon you.

Dua for bride and bridegroom

“O Allah, I ask You for the best of her and the best of what you have endowed her with. And I seek refuge in You from the worst of her and the worst of what You have endowed her with” Sunan Abu Dawud 2:248 #2160]

Note: The bride may also make the same prayer with respect to the bridegroom

Dua (prayer) for a righteous family

May Allah give all believing men and women, married or looking to marry, the towfeeq (grace) to be the ideal Muslim husband and the ideal Muslim wife with His Divine help and guidance.

The Importance of a good wife to her husband (and of course vice versa) is Great to Allah (God). Nothing can illustrate the point better than the Qur’anic statement which describes the righteous people as those who pray:

“Rabba-na hab la-na min azwaji-na wa dhuriyyati-na qurrata a’yunin wa aj’al-na li al muttaqin imama”

“Our Lord! give us spouse and children who will be the joy( and the comfort ) of our eyes, and guide us to be models of righteous (make us Leader of God-concious people). ” (Qur’an 25:74)

May Allah bless all present and future marriages with love, happiness, peace, and success.Insha Allah u will be blessed with God-fearing spouse

Aamen