Observe Your Own Reactions

By: Danielle Fagan

Source: http://www.collective-evolution.com/2014/07/19/where-do-our-emotional-respsones-come-from-are-they-truly-ours/

Take a look at your life and the feelings you have on a day-to-day basis. What emotions are yours and which are not? Does that action honestly make you happy? Going to a party might make you miserable. Talking to your wife might make you want to pull whatever hair you have left out. Your divorce might be the greatest thing that’s ever happened to you.

Your experience is completely unique. There is no point in comparing yourself to your friends, family members, models or actors on TV. They are not you so their experience can never match your own. What types of things make you angry? Sad? Happy? Why do they make you feel that way? If your own answer doesn’t make good, clear sense to you, then it probably isn’t yours.

Cursing our own children has serious long term negative effects. Rather keep praying for their goodness without losing hope.

 Cursing our own children has serious long term negative effects. Rather keep praying for their goodness without losing hope.
 Maldiciendo a nuestros propios hijos tiene graves efectos negativos a largo plazo. En lugar de seguir orando por su bondad sin perder la esperanza.
 Vervloeken onze eigen kinderen heeft ernstige lange termijn negatieve effecten. In plaats blijven bidden voor hun goedheid, zonder de hoop te verliezen.
 Maudire nos propres enfants a des effets graves à long terme négatives. Garder plutôt prier pour leur bonté sans perdre espoir.
 Fluchend unsere eigenen Kinder hat gravierende langfristige negative Auswirkungen. Vielmehr bete für ihre Güte, ohne die Hoffnung zu verlieren.
 Mà wǒmen zìjǐ de háizi yǒu yánzhòng de chángqí de fùmiàn yǐngxiǎng. Ér bùduàn qíqiú tāmen de shànliáng yòu bù shī xīwàng.
 Förbanna våra egna barn har allvarliga långsiktiga negativa effekter. Snarare hålla be för deras godhet utan att förlora hoppet.
 Proklinaya nashikh sobstvennykh detey imeyet ser’yeznyye dolgosrochnyye negativnyye posledstviya. Skoreye prodolzhat’ molit’sya za ikh dobrotu , ne teryaya nadezhdu.
 Kendi çocukları küfür ciddi uzun vadeli olumsuz etkileri vardır. Aksine umut kaybetmeden onların iyiliği için dua etmeye devam.
 Maledicendo i nostri figli ha gravi effetti negativi a lungo termine. Piuttosto continuare a pregare per la loro bontà, senza perdere la speranza.
 Mengutuk anak-anak kita sendiri memiliki efek negatif serius jangka panjang. Sebaliknya terus berdoa untuk kebaikan mereka tanpa kehilangan harapan.

The strong of heart & mind will prosper, those who cannot follow their own destiny are fated to fail in life.

 The strong of heart & mind will prosper, those who cannot follow their own destiny are fated to fail in life.
 El fuerte de corazón y la mente es lo mejor, los que no pueden seguir su propio destino están destinados a fracasar en la vida.
 De sterke van hart en geest zal bloeien, degenen die niet kunnen volgen hun eigen lot gedoemd te mislukken in het leven.
 La forte du coeur et de l’esprit seront prospérer, ceux qui ne peuvent suivre leur propre destin sont voués à l’échec dans la vie.
 Das starke Herz & Verstand wird gedeihen, diejenigen, die ihr eigenes Schicksal nicht folgen können, sind dazu bestimmt, im Leben zu versagen.
 Qiángjìng de xīnzàng hé tóunǎo zhě chāng, shuí yě bùnéng ànzhào zìjǐ de mìngyùn shì zhùdìng de rénshēng shībài.
 Den starka hjärta och sinne kommer att blomstra, de som inte kan följa sitt eget öde är förutbestämt att misslyckas i livet.
 Sil’nyy serdtsa i uma budet protsvetat’ , te, kto ne mozhet sledovat’ svoyey sobstvennoy sud’boy suzhdeno poterpet’ neudachu v zhizni.
 Kalbin ve aklın güçlü zenginleşecektir, kendi kaderini takip edemeyenler hayatında başarısız mahkum edilir.
 Il forte di cuore e mente prospererà, coloro che non possono seguire il proprio destino sono destinato a fallire nella vita.
 The kuat hati & pikiran akan beruntung, mereka yang tidak bisa mengikuti nasib mereka sendiri ditakdirkan untuk gagal dalam hidup.

30 things to stop

By: muslimvillage.com

Source: muslimvillage.com

When you stop chasing the wrong things you give
the right things a chance to catch you.

As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”  Nothing could be closer to the truth.  But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.

Here are some ideas to get you started:

1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.  If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you.  You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.  Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth.  And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.
2. Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on.  No, it won’t be easy.  There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them.  We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems.  That’s not how we’re made.  In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall.  Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time.  This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.
3. Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself.  Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.  Read The Road Less Traveled.
4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.  Yes, help others; but help yourself too.  If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.
5. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else.  Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you.  Don’t change so people will like you.  Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
6. Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.
7. Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing.  Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success.  You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.
8. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us.  We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past.  But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future.  Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
9. Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive.  But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.
10. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either.  You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else.  Read Stumbling on Happiness.
11. Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place.  Evaluate situations and take decisive action.  You cannot change what you refuse to confront.  Making progress involves risk.  Period!  You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.
12. Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises.  Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.
13. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – Relationships must be chosen wisely.  It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company.  There’s no need to rush.  If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.
14. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet.  Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you.  But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.
15. Stop trying to compete against everyone else. – Don’t worry about what others are doing better than you.  Concentrate on beating your own records every day.  Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.
16. Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own.  Ask yourself this:  “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”
17. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – Life’s curve-balls are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you.  You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough.  But reflect back on those negative curve-balls thrown at you in the past.  You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation.  So smile!  Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.
18. Stop holding grudges. – Don’t live your life with hate in your heart.  You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate.  Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.”  It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.”  Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself!  And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too.  If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.
19. Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.
20. Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway.  Just do what you know in your heart is right.
21. Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it.  If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting.  Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.
22. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things.  The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.
23. Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done.  Read Getting Things Done.
24. Stop following the path of least resistance. – Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile.  Don’t take the easy way out.  Do something extraordinary.
25. Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. – It’s okay to fall apart for a little while.  You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well.  You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears.  The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.
26. Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life.  When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.
27. Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out.  But making one person smile CAN change the world.  Maybe not the whole world, but their world.  So narrow your focus.
28. Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy.  One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time?  Three years?  Five years?”  If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.
29. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen.  Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story.  If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.
30. Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life.  Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs.  Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.

The views expressed in this article are the author’s and do not necessarily reflect those ofMuslimVillage.com.

Listen to your own voice, your own soul, too many people listen to the noise of the world, instead of themselves.

 Listen to your own voice, your own soul, too many people listen to the noise of the world, instead of themselves.
 Escuche su propia voz, su propia alma, también mucha gente escucha el ruido del mundo, en lugar de a sí mismos.
 Luister naar je eigen stem, je eigen ziel, te veel mensen luisteren naar het lawaai van de wereld, in plaats van zichzelf.
 Écoutez votre voix, votre âme, trop de gens écoutent le bruit du monde, au lieu de se.
 Hören Sie auf Ihre eigene Stimme, die eigene Seele zu viele Leute hören den Lärm der Welt, statt sich.
 Qīngtīng zìjǐ de shēngyīn, zìjǐ de línghún, tài duō de rén tīng de, ér bùshì zìjǐ shìjiè de zàoyīn.
 Lyssna på din egen röst, din egen själ, för många människor lyssnar på ljudet av världen, i stället för sig själva.
 Slushayte svoy ​​sobstvennyy golos , svoyu sobstvennuyu dushu , slishkom mnogo lyudey slushat’ shum mira , a ne o sebe.
 Kendi sesinin, kendi ruh dinleyin, pek çok insan yerine kendilerini, dünya gürültü dinlemek.
 Ascolta la tua voce, la tua anima, troppe persone ascoltano il rumore del mondo, invece di se stessi.
 Mendengarkan suara Anda sendiri, jiwa Anda sendiri, terlalu banyak orang mendengarkan suara dari dunia, bukan diri mereka sendiri.

Never underestimate your own strength, you were born for a purpose & are blessed with the power to achieve it.

 Never underestimate your own strength, you were born for a purpose & are blessed with the power to achieve it.
 Nunca subestimes tu propia fuerza, naciste para un propósito y son bendecidos con el poder para lograrlo.
 Onderschat nooit je eigen kracht, je bent geboren voor een doel en zijn gezegend met de kracht om dit te bereiken.
 Ne sous-estimez votre propre force, vous êtes né dans un but et êtes bénis avec le pouvoir pour y parvenir.
 Unterschätzen Sie niemals Ihre eigene Kraft, Sie zu einem Zweck geboren wurden und sind mit der Macht, es zu erreichen gesegnet.
 Yǒngyuǎn bùyào dīgū nǐ de shílì, nǐ chūshēng de mùdì jí yǒngyǒu détiāndúhòu de qù shíxiàn tā de quánlì.
 Underskatta aldrig din egen styrka, är du född för ett syfte och är välsignade med makt för att uppnå det.
 Nikogda ne stoit nedootsenivat’ sobstvennyye sily , vy rodilis’ s opredelennoy tsel’yu i nadeleny vlast’yu, chtoby dobit’sya yego.
 Mai sottovalutare la vostra forza, siete nati per uno scopo e sono benedetti con il potere di realizzarlo.
 Mai sottovalutare la vostra forza, siete nati per uno scopo e sono benedetti con il potere di realizzarlo.
 Jangan pernah meremehkan kekuatan Anda sendiri, Anda dilahirkan untuk suatu tujuan & diberkati dengan kekuatan untuk mencapainya.

You are the master of your own destiny, it is those who do not take command of their lives, who sink in stormy waters.

 You are the master of your own destiny, it is those who do not take command of their lives, who sink in stormy waters.
 Usted es el amo de su propio destino, son aquellos que no toman el mando de sus vidas, que se hunden en las aguas tormentosas.
 Jij bent de meester van je eigen lot, het is zij die geen commando gebruik te maken van hun leven, die zinken in stormachtige wateren.
 Vous êtes le maître de votre propre destin, ce sont ceux qui ne prennent pas le commandement de leur vie, qui plongent dans les eaux tumultueuses.
 Du bist der Meister Ihres eigenen Schicksals, ist es die, die nicht teilnehmen Befehl ihres Lebens, der in stürmischen Gewässern versenken.
 Nǐ shì nǐ zìjǐ mìngyùn de zhǔrén, tā shì nàxiē shuí bù ná zìjǐ de shēngmìng, shuí zài xiōngyǒng de bōtāo zhōng chénmò de mìnglìng.
 Du är befälhavaren på ditt eget öde, är det de som inte tar kommandot över sina liv, som sjunker i stormiga vatten.
 Ty khozyain svoyey sud’by , eto te, kto ne prinimayet komandu iz svoyey zhizni , kotoryye tonut v burnykh vodakh.
 Kendi kaderinin efendisi vardır, o fırtınalı sularda lavabo hayatlarını, komut almak istemeyenler olduğunu.
 Tu sei il padrone del tuo destino, è quelli che non prendono il comando delle loro vite, che affondano in acque tempestose.
 Anda adalah penguasa nasib Anda sendiri, itu adalah mereka yang tidak mengambil alih komando dari kehidupan mereka, yang tenggelam di perairan badai.

When you want to mention your companion’s faults, remember your own faults.

 When you want to mention your companion’s faults, remember your own faults.
 Cuando se quiere hablar de las faltas de su compañero, recuerde sus propias faltas.
 Als u wilt de fouten van uw metgezel te noemen, denk aan je eigen fouten.
 Si vous voulez parler des défauts de votre compagnon, n’oubliez pas vos propres défauts.
 Wenn Sie zu Ihren Fehlern Begleiter erwähnen möchten, merken Sie sich Ihre eigenen Fehler.
 Dāng nǐ xiǎng tí yī tí nǐ de bànlǚ de quēdiǎn, jì zhù nǐ zìjǐ de guòshī.
 När du vill tala om din följeslagare är fel, kom ihåg dina egna fel.
 Yesli vy khotite otmetit’ nedostatki vashego kompan’ona , pomnite svoi sobstvennyye nedostatki.
 Eğer arkadaşınız’ın hataları bahsetmek istediğiniz zaman, kendi hataları hatırlıyorum.
 Quando si vuole parlare di difetti del tuo compagno, ricordare le proprie colpe.
 Bila Anda ingin menyebutkan kesalahan pendamping Anda, ingat kesalahan Anda sendiri.

A strong person is not one who overcomes people, but one who overcomes his own self.

 A strong person is not one who overcomes people, but one who overcomes his own self.
 Una persona fuerte no es el que vence a la gente, sino que vence su propio yo.
 Een sterk persoon is niet iemand die mensen overwint, maar iemand die zijn eigen zelf overwint.
 Une personne fort n’est pas celui qui surmonte les gens, mais celui qui surmonte sa propre personne.
 Eine starke Person ist nicht einer, der die Menschen überwindet, sondern einer, der sein eigenes Selbst überwindet.