Nouman Ali Khan: San Bernardino & Paris Attacks – How to Respond (Video)

 The Quran is very serious and absolute in its declaration that innocent people and civilians, of any kind, can never be harmed.

50 Loving Sentiments We Should All Say More Often

By: Jade Small

Source: http://www.the-open-mind.com/50-loving-sentiments-we-should-all-say-more-often/

 All too often, we take the people we love the most for granted: our lovers, family members, friends, and even our children. We forget the enormous power of our words, as we carelessly lash out when under stress. We stick our noses in our laptops and smartphones, assuming our loved ones know what we are failing to verbalize, sometimes until the relationships are disconnected or damaged beyond repair.

Make a choice to consciously nurture your relationships with verbal communications of love. Be kind and sincere. Ask open-ended questions with an open heart. Listen empathically and non-defensively. Remember, there are no conditions, no strings, no expectations, and no manipulations. Simply, love to love.

1. I am here for you.

2. Thank you. Thanks for all you do for me and all the ways in which you add value to my life.

3. You are beautiful. What I find most beautiful about you, inside and out, is: _____.

4. How are you? Truthfully, fully and completely — how are you, really?

5. Tell me about your dreams.

6. Tell me about your fears.

7. Tell me about your beliefs about life, love, the world, etc.

8. I am thinking about you.

9. I appreciate you.

10. I care about your feelings.

11. You are important to me.

12. I made a mistake and I’m sorry. I sincerely apologize. Please forgive me.

13. I value our relationship.

14. I am grateful and fortunate to have you in my life.

15. What can I do to support you?

16. How are you feeling about our relationship?

17. How are you feeling about me?

18. The qualities I love about you most are: _____.

19. I notice and really appreciate your efforts and growth in these areas: _____.

20. What’s most meaningful to me about our connection is: ______.

21. Great job! Nice work! Well done.

22. These are the ways in which you have touched my life and made me better: _____.

23. It’s an honor to know you and to be close to you.

24. I want the very best for you.

25. I cherish the following experiences we’ve shared: _______.

26. I trust you. I trust in our relationship.

27. I forgive you. I let go of my resentments.

28. These are all of the wonderful, positive qualities I see in you: _____.

29. Your greatest gifts and strengths are: _____.

30. I respect you.

31. I respect your decisions even though they’re different from mine or what I’ve recommended. You’re free to make your own choices.

32. I support you in any and every way that I can.

33. I believe in you.

34. I lovingly and trustingly give you the time and space you need.

35. You can achieve anything you want in life.

36. You are special. You are divinely and uniquely YOU.

37. You are free to be your authentic self in the context of our relationship.

38. I welcome you to be honest and truthful with me.

39. I desire to have/maintain an intimate and loving relationship with you.

40. You elicit the following positive emotions and feelings in me: _______.

41. You are not responsible for me, for my bad behaviors or my poor choices.

42. What would you like from me or from our relationship?

43. It’s not your fault. I don’t blame you.

44. I support you in taking care of yourself.

45. Your feelings are understandable and normal responses to everything you have been through.

46. I do not expect you to be perfect. I absolutely understand you are a human being and that none of us are perfect.

47. I acknowledge my areas of needed improvement including ABC, and am working on them by doing XYZ.

48. It’s important to me to know and understand you.

49. I come to you with an open heart and an open mind.

50. I love you fully, completely, and exactly as you are.

Winning your husband’s heart!

1. Behave like a female, i.e. all the tenderness of a female–a man doesn’t want a man for his wife!
2. Dress pleasantly/attractively. If you are a home-maker, don’t stay in your pyjamas suit all day.
3. Don’t lay out all your problems on your husband as soon as he walks in. Give him a little mental break.
4. Be kind to your mother-in-law the same way you would like your husband to be kind to your own mother. (Not ALL in laws are bad)
5. Compliment him on the things you know he’s not so confident about (looks, intelligence, etc.) This will build his self-esteem.
6. Tell your husband you love him, many, many times. Aisha (رضالله عنها) narrated that the Prophet (صلي الله عليه وسلم) used to ask her how strong her love for him, she said like “a knot.” And the next time he would ask her, “How is that knot?” He also used to reply to her saying, “Jazak ALLAH , O Aishah, wallahi, you have not rejoiced in me as I have rejoiced in you.”.
7. Call his family often.
8. Give him a simple task to do at home and then thank him when he does it. This will encourage him to do more.
9. Encourage him to do good deeds.
10. If he’s in a bad mood, give him some space. He’ll get over it, Insha’Allah.
11. Thank him sincerely for providing you with food and shelter. It’s a big deal.
12. Remember that your husband has feelings, so take them into consideration.
13. If your husband is annoyed over a little thing you do (and you can control it), then stop doing it. Really.
14. Do all of the above fee sabeelillah and you will see Allah put barakah in everything you do.
May Allah Bring Prosperity. Ameen

Quran Gems: Singular, Plural & Super Plural (Video)

 A video illustration showing the Linguistic Miarcle in the use of singular, plural and special kind of super plural words in the Qur’an, Surah Luqman & Surah Nahl. By Muslim speaker Nouman Ali Khan.

Tips for Single-Parent Households

 

This is the second of a series of three articles on having a productive household. In this part, we will discuss 7 more aspects of a productive household. These will relate to how fathers and single mothers can contribute to a more productive household, In sha Allah. (Part 1)

1. Stay Married

One of the most important things a father can do to contribute to a productive household is remain married to his wife. Divorce dissolves families and prevents children from living in the most desirable family atmosphere.

Of course, divorce is allowed in our religion. In some situations such as abusive relationships, it may be preferable. Then there may be situations in which a husband or wife may become widowed. These are exceptions we can not overlook. Nevertheless, in general, the ideal environment for a healthy productive family is an intact one.

According to one hadith, Allah  considers divorce the most hated permissible act. The Prophet  was reported to have said: “The most hateful permissible thing (halal) in the sight of Allah is divorce.” [Ibn Majah]

Divorce causes difficulties for all parties involved. The most obvious harm occurs when the partners have children. Divorce shakes the foundation of what children know to be familiar and stable. The children are forced into a situation that causes them extreme grief and uncertainty. They lose trust in those closest and most dear to them, often times becoming emotionally insecure.

Even without children, the two divorced individuals themselves suffer great anxiety, emotional upheaval and psychological trauma. Divorce frequently leads to the development of a host of uncomfortable and unhealthy feelings and interactions from the former partners. Divorced spouses often feel betrayed, they lose trust in others and they can fall into long-term depression. This emotional devastation affects the individuals’ interactions with others, including their future relationships. The effects of divorce can sometimes be suffered throughout life.

According the American Psychological Association, “… about 40 to 50 per cent of married couples in the United States divorce.” This is not a precedent we wish to establish for our children.

Children should be raised in intact households. This is obvious, yet much easier said than done, of course. Couples should look to fulfil their responsibilities rather than demanding their rights, then Allah  may bless them. Remember that Qur’an and the sunnah have the best advice on how to sustain a working marriage. Additionally, to aid in achieving intact productive households, parents should take advantage of the other resources. Some of these include counselling (recommended in Qur’an), books, websites and suggestions from relatives and friends from whom we may gain helpful advice and encouragement.

2. Support the Children

Of course, this world is not perfect. Sometimes, families break up. In these situations, it is extremely important that the father remains an important part of the children’s life. Divorce can bring about extremely intense feelings between former spouses. For the children’s sake, a father should not let the estrangement affect the relationship he has with them. The children still desire to be with both parents. They need both parents. Each fulfils a different need that is necessary for the children’s proper development.

In addition, children of divorce can sometimes feel abandoned when one parent chooses to avoid interacting with them after the divorce. This can lead to the children having low self esteem and projecting this self image upon society through violence, disrespecting others and displaying self-destructive behaviours. For these reasons, it is important for husbands to be there for their children, despite the difficulty and discomfort they may experience during and after divorce. 

3. Fathers Should be Kind to Children’s Mother

It is often the mother whom children are most attached to. Let your children see your affection towards their mother. This gives them peace of mind and teaches them how to treat their own wife once they mature.

Do not abuse your wife. Allah  has recommended other methods to use rather than hitting. How many husbands truly attempt to put into practice these recommendations given by Allah ? Anger-management problems, low-self esteem, arrogance and lack of knowledge of conflict management are often the true reasons for physical abuse in the home.

The Prophet  never used physical discipline with any of his wives. He is the best of examples for us to emulate.

He also said: “The most perfect man in his faith among the believers is the one whose behaviour is most excellent; and the best of you are those who are the best to their wives.” [At-Tirmidhi]

The above hadith says it all when it comes to the husband’s treatment of his wife.

4. Be Kind With the Children

The Messenger  said: ”Indeed among the believers with the most complete faith is the one who is the best in conduct, and the most kind to his family.” [At-Tirmidhi]

It has become a norm in some households for the father to be a stern disciplinarian. This is nothing further from the way in which the Prophet  was known to run his household. Not only should fathers be kind and gentle with their spouse, but also with their children.

Abu Hurairah  reported: The Prophet  kissed his grandson Hasan bin ‘Ali in the presence of Aqra’ bin Habis. Thereupon Aqra’ remarked: “I have ten children and I have never kissed any one of them.” The Messenger of Allah  cast a glance upon him and said, “He who does not show mercy to others, will not be shown mercy.” [Bukhari and Muslim]

There is no reference to Prophet  ever hitting any of his children, stepchildren or grandchildren. What he was known for was kissing them, saying he loved them and being exceptionally patient with them. This is the best model for fathers who wish to establish productive households.

Always use kind words. A harsh word can discourage those who have been trying hard to improve and make them become despondent.

 Always use kind words. A harsh word can discourage those who have been trying hard to improve and make them become despondent.
 Utilice siempre palabras amables. Una palabra dura puede desalentar a aquellos que han estado haciendo grandes esfuerzos para mejorar y hacer que se conviertan abatido.
 Gebruik altijd vriendelijke woorden. Een hard woord kan ontmoedigen degenen die hebben geprobeerd hard om te verbeteren en ze moedeloos.
 Toujours utiliser des mots aimables. Un mot dur peut décourager ceux qui ont essayé dur pour améliorer et faire devenir découragé.
 Verwenden Sie immer freundlichen Worte. Ein hartes Wort können diejenigen, die hart versucht zu verbessern und sie mutlos haben entmutigen.
 Shǐzhōng shǐyòng kèqì huà. Nántīng dehuà kěyǐ zǔzhǐ nàxiē shuí yīzhí zài nǔlì gǎishàn, shǐ tāmen biàn de jǔsàng.
 Använd alltid vänliga ord. Ett hårt ord kan avskräcka dem som har försökt hårt för att förbättra och få dem att bli förtvivlad.
 Vsegda ispol’zuyte dobryye slova . Rezkoye slovo mozhet prepyatstvovat’ tem, kto pytayetsya nad sovershenstvovaniyem i sdelat’ ikh v unyniye.
 Her zaman nazik kelimeler kullanın. Sert bir kelime geliştirmek ve onları umutsuz hale getirmek için gayret edilmiş olanların vazgeçirmek olabilir.
 Usare sempre parole gentili. Una parola dura può scoraggiare coloro che hanno cercato duramente per migliorare e farli diventare depresso.
 Selalu gunakan kata-kata baik. Sebuah kata yang keras dapat mencegah orang-orang yang telah berusaha keras untuk meningkatkan dan membuat mereka menjadi putus asa.

Instead of complaining about the fast diminishing number of honest, kind, sincere, upright people in the world, I should strive to be one.

 Instead of complaining about the fast diminishing number of honest, kind, sincere, upright people in the world, I should strive to be one.
 En lugar de quejarse de la disminución del número rápido de honesto, amable, sincero, personas íntegras en el mundo, me esfuerzo por ser uno.
 In plaats van klagen over het snel afnemende aantal eerlijk, vriendelijk, oprecht, rechtschapen mensen in de wereld, zou ik ernaar streven om een te zijn.
 Au lieu de se plaindre de la diminution du nombre de rapide honnêtes, aimables, sincères, honnêtes gens dans le monde, je m’efforce d’être un.
 Statt zu klagen über die immer knapper Anzahl der ehrlich, freundlich, aufrichtig, aufrecht Menschen in der Welt, sollte ich danach streben, einer zu sein.
 Ér bùshì bàoyuàn chéngshí, shànliáng, zhēnchéng, zhèngzhí de rén zài shìjiè shàng de xùnsù jiǎnshǎo duōshǎo, wǒ yīnggāi nǔlì zuò dào de.
 I stället för att klaga på det snabba minskande antalet ärliga, vänliga, ärlig, hederlig människor i världen, skulle jag sträva efter att vara en.
 Vmesto togo, chtoby zhalovat’sya na bystro umen’sheniyu chisla chestnyy, dobryy , iskrenniy, vertikal’nykh lyudey v mire , ya dolzhen stremit’sya byt’ odnim.
 Bunun yerine dünyada dürüst, nazik, samimi, dik insanların hızla azalan sayıda şikayet, ben biri olmak için gayret göstermelisiniz.
 Invece di lamentarsi diminuzione del numero veloce oneste, gentili, sinceri, giusti nel mondo, dovrei sforzo di essere uno.
 Daripada mengeluh tentang berkurangnya jumlah cepat jujur, baik, tulus, orang yang jujur ​​di dunia, saya harus berusaha untuk menjadi satu.

Some of those on drugs are really wonderful, kind hearted people minus that habit. Kick it today. You can!

 Some of those on drugs are really wonderful, kind hearted people minus that habit. Kick it today. You can!
 Algunas de las personas contra las drogas son realmente maravilloso, la gente de buen corazón, menos ese hábito. Kick it hoy. ¡Tú puedes!
 Sommige van die aan de drugs zijn echt geweldig, vriendelijk gestemde mensen minus die gewoonte. Kick it vandaag. Je kunt het!
 Certains de ceux sur les médicaments sont vraiment merveilleux, les gens genre hearted moins que l’habitude. Coup aujourd’hui. Vous le pouvez!
 Einige von denen, die Drogen sind wirklich wunderbar, gutherzigen Menschen minus dass Gewohnheit. Kick it heute. Sie können!
 Qízhōng yǒuxiē yàowù shì zhēnzhèng jīngcǎi de, shànliáng de rénmen jiǎn qù xíguàn. Jīntiān tī tā. Nǐ kěyǐ!
 En del av dem på droger är verkligen underbart, godhjärtade människor minus den vanan. Sparka den i dag. Du kan!
 Nekotoryye iz tekh, na lekarstva deystvitel’no zamechatel’ny , vid serdechnyye lyudi minus , chto privychka. Udar yego segodnya. Vy mozhete!
 Uyuşturucu Bunlardan bazıları, iyi kalpli insanlar eksi alışkanlık gerçekten harika. Bugün Kick. Şunları yapabilirsiniz!
 Alcuni di quelli sulle droghe sono davvero meraviglioso, la gente di buon cuore meno che l’abitudine. Calcio d’oggi. Si può!
 Beberapa dari mereka pada obat yang benar-benar indah, baik hati orang dikurangi kebiasaan itu. Menendang itu hari ini. Anda bisa!

Omar Suleiman: Achieving the Goal of Life (Video)

 Omar Suleiman is the kind-hearted, friendly giant from New Orleans, Louisiana. Born and raised in America, Sheikh Omar’s character has gained the love of both young and mature audiences.
After having attained two Bachelors degree in Islamic Studies and in Accounting, Sheikh Omar began teaching intensive seminars in Aqeedah, Fiqh, Tafseer, Dawah, and Hadith. He has served as the Imam of Masjid Abu Bakr As-Siddique in New Orleans. He studied in the UAE under Ustadh Tariq Rajah and in Jordan under Sheikh Omar Sulayman Al Ashqar, for whom he has translated articles and books. Since 2008, Sheikh Omar has been under the tutelage of Dr. Salah As-Sawy and Dr. Hatem Al Haj and teaching online with Mishkah University. A member of the ICNA Shariah Council, he also conducts intensive courses locally in Texas with the Islamic Learning Foundation. Sheikh Omar is an embodiment of his teachings, combining knowledge and action. He was the field coordinator of ICNA Relief in Hurricane Katrina as well as the Outreach Director of ICNA Relief Louisiana. He was recognized and awarded for “Outstanding Civic Achievement” by the Major and City Council of New Orleans in 2010. He is currently dedicating himself fully to teaching and in his Masters program of Islamic Finance with the Institute of Islamic Finance in the UK, and will be pursuing his PhD in Islamic Studies from Malaysia in the Fall of this year, insha Allah.
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