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Getting Kids to Listen

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Source: missionislam.com

One of the hardest parts of parenting is getting our kids to listen to us, and then, of course, getting them to do what we ask!

If you remember to use a few important skills this job will be much easier for you. Insha Allah

Think before you speak.

You tell your daughter it’s time to leave, then take twenty more minutes to get yourself ready. You ask your kids to clean up the family room, then allow the mess to remain for the night. You threaten to cancel your child’s trip if he speaks badly to you again. He does, but you don’t. All these scenes create kids who have “selective hearing.” Instead, take a minute to think before you issue a command, be specific, and your words will become more accurate and meaningful.

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Researchers discover fasting is key to regenerate your immune system

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Sourcedailyhealthpost.com

The immune system is something that is highly misunderstood not just by everyday people but also by the many conventional doctors who we depend on for health advice.

Most people resort to things like synthetic vitamins and medicines (ignoring better natural alternatives) to deal with colds and improve immunity, but the cycle of sickness always seems to continue.

For people with compromised immune systems, there are many natural options, and now researchers have discovered what could well be one of the best ways to reset and recharge your immune system; one that happens to be free and is believed to work even in the elderly as well.

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5 facts you need to know about Ebola

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1. What is Ebola?

Ebola, officially known as Ebola hemorrhagic fever, is a rare and deadly disease caused by infection with one of the Ebola virus strains.

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Self-restraint & gentle speech are effective against stubborn opposition.

gb copy Self-restraint & gentle speech are effective against stubborn opposition.
es copy El autocontrol y el habla suave son eficaces contra la oposición obstinada.
nl copy Zelfbeheersing en zachte spraak zijn effectief tegen hardnekkige oppositie.
fr copy La maîtrise de soi et la parole douce sont efficaces contre opposition obstinée.
de copy Selbstbeschränkung und schonende Rede sind wirksam gegen hartnäckige Opposition.
CN67867 Zìwǒ kèzhì hé wēnhé de jiǎnghuà shì yǒuxiào duìkàng wángù de fǎnduì.
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rus7897 Sderzhannost’ i nezhnyy rech’ effektivny protiv upornogo protivodeystviya.
4523turkey Kendine hakim ve nazik konuşma inatçı muhalefete karşı etkilidir.
images Autocontrollo e delicato discorso sono efficaci contro l’opposizione ostinata.
indonesiaID Menahan diri & pidato lembut efektif terhadap oposisi keras kepala.

How to Stop Masturbation

Masturbation is defined as the manual stimulation of the male or female genitals, not by sexual intercourse, designed to produce an orgasm. Masturbation is totally forbidden in Shari’ah.

One of the most humiliating problems that the constant male masturbator suffers from when he attempts to have sexual relations is premature ejaculation or the failure to maintain an erection. When a person is masturbating, he tends to reach his orgasm as quickly as possible but in sexual intercourse, he normally has to attempt to control his excitement which can impose a great strain on those who indulge in self abuse over a lengthy period.

Those who achieve insufficient satisfaction from sexual intercourse and return to masturbation or never give it up suffer a great torment. Sex life is empty for them, which leads to many more problems, marital disputes, divorce, etc.

Therefore, people who continuously masturbate lose out all round. The physical pleasure becomes reduced to a natural act like urinating or excreting and at the back of their minds there is an awareness that they are missing out on the real pleasures of life. No adult can honestly claim to masturbate without a guilty feeling of complete uselessness. Masturbation is merely an exhaustive rather than constructive undertaking resulting in nothing but total loss. Once orgasm has been achieved, there is nothing left except a feeling of complete emptiness.

Steps in overcoming masturbation

Be assured that you can be cured of your difficulty. Many have been, both male and female. And you can also be cured if you determine that it must be so. If you want to give it up, you need will power and determination. Rasulullah [sallallaahu alayhi wasallam] said, ‘The Niyyat of a believer is better than the act.’

This determination is the first step. That is where we begin. Firstly, you must decide that you will end this practice and when you make that decision, the problem will be greatly reduced at once. But it must be more than a hope or a wish more than knowing that it is good for you. You must realize that this is a great evil and you have to want to give it up.

It must be actually a decision. If you truly make up your mind that you will be cured, then you will have the strength to resist any tendencies which you may have and any temptations which may come to you. Ask Allah to help you and give you strength and steadfastness to succeed.

After you have made this decision then observe the following specific guidelines.

Guidelines 

1. First step is to realize that you are violating Allah’s command and you are bringing upon yourself a life long destruction and harm.

2. Never touch the intimate parts of your body unnecessarily.

3. Avoid being alone as much as possible. Find good company and stay in this good company. Remember, an idle mind is the devil’s (Shaytaan) workshop.

4. If you are associated with other persons having this same problem, you must break off their friendship. Never associate with other people having the same weakness. Don’t suppose that both of you will quit together, you never will. You must get away from people of that kind. Just to be in their presence will keep your problem foremost in your mind.

The problem must be taken out of your mind for that is where it really exists. Your mind must be on other and more wholesome things. It is mentioned in a Hadith that a person is upon the way of his friend. (Bukhari, Tirmizi)

5. When you bath, do so as quick as possible.

6. When in bed, if that is where you have your problem for the most part, dress yourself for the night so securely that you cannot easily touch your vital parts so that it would be difficult and time consuming for you to remove those clothes. By the time you started to remove protective clothing, you would have sufficiently controlled your thinking and the temptation would leave you.
If the temptation seems overpowering while you are in bed, engage in something useful. The purpose behind this suggestion is that you focus your mind on something else. You are the subject of your thoughts, so to speak.

7. Never look at pornographic material.

8. The attitude of the individual has an effect on how easy it is to overcome. It is essential that a firm commitment be made to control this habit. The person must first realize the evil of this act. Secondly he must understand the reason for this behavior.

After these 2 steps, the individual needs to become sensitive to the situations and conditions which may cause a person to commit this vile act. Hence a person must guard himself from anything, which may trigger a desire for this act. By following these steps, a person gains the ability to gain victory from this act, hence the power to control this filthy practice is developed. Remember you need also a bit of will-power.

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Self-restraint & gentle speech are effective against stubborn opposition.

gb copy Self-restraint & gentle speech are effective against stubborn opposition.
es copy El autocontrol y el habla suave son eficaces contra la oposición obstinada.
nl copy Zelfbeheersing en zachte spraak zijn effectief tegen hardnekkige oppositie.
fr copy La maîtrise de soi et de la parole douce sont efficaces contre opposition obstinée.
de copy Selbstbeschränkung und schonende Rede sind wirksam gegen hartnäckige wilderstand.
CN67867 Zìwǒ kèzhì hé wēnhé de jiǎnghuà shì yǒuxiào duìkàng wángù de fǎnduì.
Sweden Självbehärskning och skonsam tal är effektivt mot envisa motstånd.
rus7897 Sderzhannost’ i nezhnyy rech’ effektivny protiv upornogo protivodeystviya.
4523turkey Kendine hakim ve nazik konuşma inatçı muhalefete karşı etkilidir.
images Autocontrollo e delicato discorso sono efficaci contro l’opposizione ostinata.
indonesiaID Menahan diri & pidato lembut efektif terhadap oposisi keras kepala.