By: Jade Small
All too often, we take the people we love the most for granted: our lovers, family members, friends, and even our children. We forget the enormous power of our words, as we carelessly lash out when under stress. We stick our noses in our laptops and smartphones, assuming our loved ones know what we are failing to verbalize, sometimes until the relationships are disconnected or damaged beyond repair.
Make a choice to consciously nurture your relationships with verbal communications of love. Be kind and sincere. Ask open-ended questions with an open heart. Listen empathically and non-defensively. Remember, there are no conditions, no strings, no expectations, and no manipulations. Simply, love to love.
1. I am here for you.
2. Thank you. Thanks for all you do for me and all the ways in which you add value to my life.
3. You are beautiful. What I find most beautiful about you, inside and out, is: _____.
4. How are you? Truthfully, fully and completely — how are you, really?
5. Tell me about your dreams.
6. Tell me about your fears.
7. Tell me about your beliefs about life, love, the world, etc.
8. I am thinking about you.
9. I appreciate you.
10. I care about your feelings.
11. You are important to me.
12. I made a mistake and I’m sorry. I sincerely apologize. Please forgive me.
13. I value our relationship.
14. I am grateful and fortunate to have you in my life.
15. What can I do to support you?
16. How are you feeling about our relationship?
17. How are you feeling about me?
18. The qualities I love about you most are: _____.
19. I notice and really appreciate your efforts and growth in these areas: _____.
20. What’s most meaningful to me about our connection is: ______.
21. Great job! Nice work! Well done.
22. These are the ways in which you have touched my life and made me better: _____.
23. It’s an honor to know you and to be close to you.
24. I want the very best for you.
25. I cherish the following experiences we’ve shared: _______.
26. I trust you. I trust in our relationship.
27. I forgive you. I let go of my resentments.
28. These are all of the wonderful, positive qualities I see in you: _____.
29. Your greatest gifts and strengths are: _____.
30. I respect you.
31. I respect your decisions even though they’re different from mine or what I’ve recommended. You’re free to make your own choices.
32. I support you in any and every way that I can.
33. I believe in you.
34. I lovingly and trustingly give you the time and space you need.
35. You can achieve anything you want in life.
36. You are special. You are divinely and uniquely YOU.
37. You are free to be your authentic self in the context of our relationship.
38. I welcome you to be honest and truthful with me.
39. I desire to have/maintain an intimate and loving relationship with you.
40. You elicit the following positive emotions and feelings in me: _______.
41. You are not responsible for me, for my bad behaviors or my poor choices.
42. What would you like from me or from our relationship?
43. It’s not your fault. I don’t blame you.
44. I support you in taking care of yourself.
45. Your feelings are understandable and normal responses to everything you have been through.
46. I do not expect you to be perfect. I absolutely understand you are a human being and that none of us are perfect.
47. I acknowledge my areas of needed improvement including ABC, and am working on them by doing XYZ.
48. It’s important to me to know and understand you.
49. I come to you with an open heart and an open mind.
50. I love you fully, completely, and exactly as you are.
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I’ve gathered a list of some of the best documentaries I’ve seen. While these films may not have been made with a Muslim audience in mind, both student and Imam will appreciate the eye-opening details each film has to offer. As a community, I believe we need to be more informed of the history behind the realities and societal ills taking place before us.
Before you delve into these documentaries, there’s one more thing I should mention. Though I believe it’s important for us to be aware of our surroundings, and more so for the community’s leadership, we must never forget that the best source of guidance is the speech of Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala (exalted is He) – the Qur’an, the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ (peace be upon him), and the knowledge of the scholars (may Allah preserve the ones alive and have mercy on the ones that have passed). Above all, we should turn to the Qur’an for enlightenment and guidance. A truly successful personality and truly successful society can only be built via the lessons and implementation of the concepts outlined in the Book of Allah. Without true internal direction from the heart, there can be no true external direction for society. And Allah knows best.
Note: Clicking on the title will open up its trailer or short preview. You can find many of these documentary films at your local video store. Others that are not copyrighted can be seen free at: www.topdocumentaryfilms.com
POLITICS AND HISTORY
- “Why We Fight” (BBC, 2005)
- “Fahrenheit 9/11” (Michael Moore, 2004)
- “War on Democracy” (John Pilger, 2007)
- “Hijacking Catastrophe” (Sut Jhally, 2004)
- “Breaking the Silence” (John Pilger, 2003)
- “Fog of War” (Robert McNamara, 2003)
HEALTH, FOOD, AND NATURE
- “Food Inc.” (Robert Kenner, 2008)
- “Super Size Me” (Morgan Spurlock, 2004)
- “Planet Earth” (Discovery Channel, 2006)
MEDIA AND COMMUNICATIONS
- “Reel Bad Arabs: How Hollywood Vilifies a People” (Jack Shaheen, 2006)
- “Control Room” (Magnolia Pictures, 2004)
- “Hearts and Minds” (Peter Davis, 1974)
- “Manufacturing Consent: Noam Chomsky and the Media” (Herman, 1992)
- “Weapons of Mass Deception” (Danny Schechter, 2004)
- “The War You Don’t See” (John Pilger, 2010)
SOCIETY AND CULTURE
- “The Century of the Self” (BBC, 2004)
- “Shouting Fire: Stories from the Edge of Free Speech” (HBO, 2009)
- “Debate: Political Islam – Is it a threat to the West?” (Doha Debates, 2009)
- “Bowling for Columbine” (Michael Moore, 2002)
- “Hamza Tzortzis: Liberalism & Islam” (LSESU, 2011)
- “Jesus Camp” (A&E Indiefilms, 2006)
- “A Time for Burning” (William C. Jersey, 1966)
- “Malcolm X: Make it Plain” (AE, 1994)
- “Peace, Propaganda & the Promised Land” (Sut Jhally, 2004)
- “The Israel Lobby” (Stephen Walt, John Mearsheimer)
- “Defamation” (Norman Finkelstein, 2009)
- “Palestine Is Still the Issue” (John Pilger, 2003)
- “Occupation 101” (Abdallah Omeish, 2006)
- “The Road to Guantanamo” (Michael Winterbottom, 2006)
- “Taxi to the Dark Side” (Moazzam Begg, 2007)
- “Fallujah, The Hidden Massacre” (Italy, 2005)
- “Generation Kill” (Journeyman Pictures, 2004)
- “The War Tapes” (Deborah Scranton, 2006)
ECONOMICS AND GLOBALIZATION
- “Commanding Height: Battle for the World Economy” (PBS, 2002)
- “The Corporation” (Noam Chomsky, 2003)
- “Walmart: The High Cost of Low Prices” (Brave New Films, 2005)
- “Money as Debt” (Paul Grignon, 2006)
- “Darwin’s Nightmare” (Hubert Sauper, 2004)
- “End of Suburbia” (Gregory Greene, 2004)
- “Life + Debt” (Stephanie Black, 2001)
- “Smartest Guys in the Room” (Alex Gibney, 2005)
- “Inside Islam: What a billion Muslim really think” (Dalia Mogahed, 2009)
- “Islam: Empire of Faith” (PBS, 2000)
- “Inside Mecca” (National Geographic, 2003)
- “Jonestown: The Life and Death of Peoples Temple” (PBS, 2006)
- “Death of the Freedom Fighter” (Al Jazeera, 2009)
- “The Trouble With Atheism” (Dimitri Collingridge, 2006)
- “Expelled: No Intelligence Allowed” (Premise, 2008)
- “To Catch a Predator” (Dateline, NBC)
- “An Islamic History of Europe” (Omaar Rageh, BBC)
- “Free Fahad” (Siraj Wahaj, 2008)
- “Entrapment or Foling Terror?” (Amy Goodman, 2010)