One of the hardest parts of parenting is getting our kids to listen to us, and then, of course, getting them to do what we ask!
If you remember to use a few important skills this job will be much easier for you. Insha Allah
Think before you speak.
You tell your daughter it’s time to leave, then take twenty more minutes to get yourself ready. You ask your kids to clean up the family room, then allow the mess to remain for the night. You threaten to cancel your child’s trip if he speaks badly to you again. He does, but you don’t. All these scenes create kids who have “selective hearing.” Instead, take a minute to think before you issue a command, be specific, and your words will become more accurate and meaningful.
By: Shahina Siddiqui
Faith: The most basic and essential attribute of a Muslim marriage is the common faith that binds the couple.
Since Islam is a way of life and not just a religion confined to weekly worship it becomes an integral part of a Muslim’s life. The frame of reference shared by the couple eases communication and sharing of values which is not possible in an interfaith marriage. It is highly recommended that faith play an important role in the developing a loving relationship.
For example, as the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said, that when a husband feeds his wife, he gets a reward for this act and Allah increases the bond of love between them. So when we love each other for the sake of Allah WE ACTUALLY INCREASE OUR FAITH.
It is reported that ‘Umar b. Al-Khattab May Allah be pleased with him – said:
Whoever exposes himself to suspicion, let him blame only himself for whoever suspects him.
He who covers his secret is in a position to choose [to correct himself].
Assume the best about your brother until what comes to you from him overcomes you [and you have to change your opinion].
How challenges can strengthen your relationship
By: Linda Bloom and Charlie Bloom
One of the most frequently-voiced complaints that we hear from clients and students (and admittedly, it tends to be women who we hear it from) is, “He won’t talk to me,” or, “I can’t get him to open up. No matter what I do, I don’t get anything more than a one-word response,” or, “I’m so frustrated, I could scream.”
No one likes to hear bad news but the truth is that the consequences of refusing to listen or talk about upsetting issues can be far more painful and damaging than the experience of discussing them.
By: Siraaj Muhammad
When reading about the problems Muslim families face we notice that some are general to the culture in which they live, while others are specific to Muslims or predominantly Muslim cultures. Attempts to resolve them usually involve learning Prophetic family best practices as well as educating ourselves about gender and child specific communication techniques via seminars, books, and articles.
Can moths hear? How do sound waves move through water? How do foxes detect mice beneath the surface of snow? These are just a few of the questions posed as the filmmakers study the many ways the aural senses are used as a mode of communication throughout the animal kingdom.
This weeks guest Dr.Mohamed Rida Bashir discussing how to have a blissful Marriage. Points covered
1. Conflict resolution
2. How to get the bliss in Marriage
3. Avoiding combative communication
4. Alarming Statistics of divorce
5. Real issues “My wife talks to much, “My husbands is never home “we don’t spend anytime together” all this and more on this weeks show of TheDeenShow.