Roadblocks in life

Source: http://www.peacefulyou.org/

This life has its struggles and challenges. These roadblocks in life hinder us from achieving peace with ourselves and our loved ones, peace we all deserve to have. Whether these roadblocks are anxiety, depression, addiction, conflict with spouse or other family members or many of life’s other challenges, Peaceful You is here to help. Know that you are not alone and that things can change for the better.

Nicotine Side Effects

If any of the following side effects occur while taking nicotine, check with your doctor immediately:

Less common

• Fast or irregular heartbeat
• fever with or without chills
• headache
• nausea with or without vomiting
• runny nose
• shortness of breath, tightness in the chest, trouble with breathing, or wheezing
• skin rash, itching, or hives
• tearing of the eyes

7 Reasons You Should Consider Quitting Coffee Today

Source: inc.com

By: Dave Kerpen

Today is National Coffee Day, but I’m celebrating differently than most–by telling you a little about my story.

Thirteen years ago today, I was the No. 1 sales rep in the country for Radio Disney. I was passionate, full of energy and drive, and committed to being as productive as I could each day. I was also hopelessly addicted to coffee. I began each morning with an extra large coffee from Dunkin’ Donuts. Then at lunchtime I had a second large cup of coffee. On most days, I’d follow that up with a third large cup of coffee around 4 p.m. for the final sales push of the day.

Tawakkul: Trust in Allah

By: Yasmin Mogahed

If you want to understand the concept of how tawakkul (trust in Allah) will ease the pain of your hardships, imagine a scenario in which a stranger picks you up and starts driving. What will you feel? Not understanding what’s happening, you will feel extreme anxiety. But what happens if you find out with all certainty that the stranger was sent by your mother? What happens to your fear and anxiety? It suddenly disappears. And the more trust you have in your mother, the less anxiety you will feel. Why? Because even if you don’t know why you are being taken along a certain path, you know with full certainty that your mother always has your back. You have *full trust* that your mother only wants good for you and would never send something to harm you. So it is this trust that gives your heart peace–even when you don’t understand the path your being taken on.

Dealing with Worries and Stress

Source: http://www.missionislam.com/

Book by Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

Contents:

Introduction
Kinds of Worry and Stress
Islam’s Treatment for Anxiety and Worry
Writings of Immam Ibn al-Qayyim on Treating Distress and Grief
Du’aa’ (Supplication)
Reminder

1. Introduction:

Praise be to Allaah, the Lord of the Worlds, the Most Merciful, the Most Compassionate, the Master of the Day of Judgement. I bear witness that there is no god but He, the Lord of the earlier and later generations and Sustainer of heaven and earth. Peace and blessings be upon the one who was sent as a Mercy to the worlds. I bear witness that he is the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). Peace and blessings be upon him, upon all his Family and Companions, and upon those who believe in his guidance and follow in his footsteps until the Day of Judgement.

Overcoming Anxiety

Source: http://www.missionislam.com/

Anxiety is an unavoidable part of life. Everyone in this world will have his or her share of worries. However, there are limits to how much worry there should be. Worry should not lead us to despair.

Some people try so hard to avoid anxiety that they are unable to cope with the real world. By fleeing from reality, they merely increase their worries.

We need to cope with our anxiety in a rational, methodical way.

I shall stay calm in moments of stress & anxiety, so as to allow positive thoughts & actions to manifest from me.

 I shall stay calm in moments of stress & anxiety, so as to allow positive thoughts & actions to manifest from me.
 Voy a mantener la calma en momentos de estrés y ansiedad, con el fin de permitir que los pensamientos y las acciones positivas que se manifiesten de mí.
 Ik zal kalm blijven in momenten van stress en angst, zodat de positieve gedachten en acties te manifesteren van mij.
 Je vais rester calme dans les moments de stress et d’anxiété, de manière à permettre des pensées et des actions positives de manifester de moi.
 Ich werde in Momenten der Angst & Stress ruhig zu bleiben, um zu ermöglichen, positive Gedanken und Handlungen, von mir zu manifestieren.
 Wǒ huì bǎochí lěngjìng de yālì hé jiāolǜ de shíkè, zhèyàng cáinéng ràng jījí de sīxiǎng hé xíngdòng, cóng wǒ lái tǐxiàn.
 Jag ska vara lugn i stunder av stress och ångest, så att positiva tankar och handlingar att manifestera från mig.
 YA budu sokhranyat’ spokoystviye v momenty stressa i trevogi , s tem chtoby pozvolit’ pozitivnyye mysli i deystviya , chtoby proyavit’ ot menya.
 Pozitif düşünceler ve eylemler benden tezahür izin verecek kadar ben, stres ve anksiyete anlarında sakin kalmak zorundadır.
 Io mantenere la calma nei momenti di stress e ansia, in modo da consentire i pensieri e le azioni positive di manifestare da me.
 Saya akan tetap tenang di saat-saat stres & kecemasan, sehingga memungkinkan pikiran & tindakan positif untuk mewujudkan dariku.

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Ten ways to avoid marrying the wrong person

The following is a useful resource we can use to help us figure out what sort of person we should marry, and can also come in handy when asking questions!

There is a right way and a wrong way to get to know someone for marriage. The wrong way is to get caught up in the excitement and nuance of a budding relationship and in the process completely forget to ask the critical questions that help determine compatibility. One of the biggest mistakes that many young Muslims make is rushing into marriage without properly and thoroughly getting to know someone.

A common myth is that the duration of a courtship is an accurate enough measure of how compatible two people are. The logic follows that the longer you speak with someone, the better you will know them. The problem with that premise is that no consideration is given to how that time is spent.

Increasingly, young Muslim couples are engaging in “halal dating,” which is basically socializing with each other in the company of friends and/or family. This includes going out to dinner, watching a movie, playing some sport or other leisure activity, etc. Depending on the family or culture, conversations are either minimal & chaperoned or worse, unrestricted and unsupervised. When you consider these limitations it makes one wonder when exactly, if ever at all, would the critical conversations take place? Unfortunately, for many, the answer is never and they live to suffer the consequences. If you or someone you know is in the “getting to know someone” phase, the following guide offers advice on exactly what to look for and avoid:

1) Do Not Marry Potential: 

Oftentimes men consider marrying a woman hoping she never changes while a woman considers marrying a man she hopes she can change. This is the wrong approach on both accounts. Don’t assume that you can change a person after you’re married to them or that they will reach their potential. There is no guarantee, after all, that those changes will be for the better. In fact, it’s often for the worse. If you can’t accept someone or imagine living with them as they are then don’t marry them. These differences can include a number of things such as ideological or practical differences in religion, habits, hygiene, communication skills, etc.

2) Choose Character over Chemistry: 

While chemistry and attraction are no doubt important, character precedes them both. A famous quote follows, “Chemistry ignites the fire, but character keeps it burning.” The idea of falling “in love” should never be the sole reason for marrying someone; it is very easy to confuse infatuation and lust for love. The most important character traits to look for include humility, kindness, responsibility, & happiness. Here’s a breakdown of each trait:

1. Humility: 
The humble person never makes demands of people but rather always does right by them. They put their values and principles above convenience and comfort. They are slow to anger, are modest, and avoid materialism.

2. Kindness:
The kind person is the quintessential giver. They seek to please and minimize the pain of others. To know if a person is a giver, observe how they treat their family, siblings, and parents. Do they have gratitude towards their parents for all that they’ve done for them? If not, then know that they will never appreciate what you do for them. How do they treat people they don’t have to be kind towards (i.e. waiters, sales associates, employees, etc)? How do they spend their money? How do they deal with anger; their own anger and their reaction to someone else’s anger?

3. Responsibility: 
A responsible person has stability in their finances, relationships, job, and character. You can you rely on this person and trust what they say.

4. Happiness:
A happy person is content with their portion in life. They feel good about themselves and good about their life. They focus on what they have rather than on what they don’t have. They very rarely complain.