By: Zohra Sarwari
Bismillahhe Rahmanee Raheem – Often when I give a speech for the Muslim Youth, at the end of it I am asked “How can I change and be the best child to my parent?”
SubhanAllaah, this shows me that if we were to teach our children the importance of parenthood, then they would actually reflect on the subject and possibly change their behaviors for the better. Glory be to Allaah for all of His favors. The problem that many of us have is that we do not teach our children how to be the best child.
InshAllaah today I will be teaching just that. I am writing this article for all of the youth out there who want to know in 3 simple steps how to be the best child inshAllaah. If you are one of those youth, then I would like to begin by saying mashAllaah I am proud of you first for reading this article. That tells me a lot about you as a person. If you have the courage to admit that you could be a better child, and you want to learn more skills that alone says a lot about your character. However, to fully benefit from this article you need to actually put the information from this article into action- inshAllaah.
Before we get started I want to ask you one question. Will you commit to me that you will use these 3 steps as often as you can until it eventually becomes habit? Please say YES. InshAllaah you said yes, and our journey begins.
Let’s start with Bismillah:
Step 1. Always say “At your Service Umme or Abi (Mom or Dad)”:
What does this mean. Well when you’re called upon to do something without a second thought say “At your service Umme or Abi. That means I am ready to do as you wish. With those words coming out of your mouth, your actions inshAllaah will be sincere as they take into effect next. You see sometimes the words coming out of our mouth helps us put our actions to ease as they take effect into the next few minutes. Believe me just saying this will make you smile and be ready to serve your parents.
Action Step: Practice saying “At your service Umme/Abi. Say this 20 times to yourself, until you feel comfortable saying it inshAllaah.
It should be natural and easy to come out of your mouth. Everytime you say these words to your parents and actually do what they ask you to do inshAllaah Allaah will bless you more, and you will feel happier. When our parents are happy with us, Allaah subhana wa Tala is happy with us, when our parents are angry with us Allaah subhana wa Tala is angry with us.
The Prophet (Sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) said:“The pleasure of Allaah is from the pleasure of the parents, and the anger of Allah is from the anger of the parents.”
So let’s not make our parents angry and instead earn their pleasure, for when we do good to them, we make our Lord happy. SubhanAllaah what a beautiful religion Islam is, Allaah subhana wa Tala only wants the best from each of us. By taking the action step as I proposed you’re on your way to success inshAllaah.