The Private Self(ie)
By: Wendy Shalit
The pressure on girls today to take sexy selfies comes out of a culture that routinely equates modesty with shame, instead of recognizing it for what it really is: an impulse that protects what is precious and intimate. Teenage girls need to know that when boys ask them for naked pictures, they can—and should—say no. It’s not merely because those pictures can find their way onto social media. (Even without the aid of hackers, such photos seem to have a way of slipping their iPhone collars and circulating with astonishing ease). A better reason to say no is that, having set a higher standard, maybe someone will write a love poem for them instead.
And if the boys don’t, who cares? Modesty is, at its essence, about having an internal sense of self, not needing others’ approval of how you look (naked or otherwise) to know that you have a unique purpose in this world, and certainly not needing all your friends to like your Facebook post in order to know you’re great.
Posted on September 11, 2014, in ARTICLES and tagged approval, boys, culture, girls, hypersexualisation, leaked, man, modesty, pictures, pressure, pressure on girls, purpose, self, sexy selfies, shame, society, standard, the private selfie, wendy shalit, women, world. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.