Why people are selfish

By: Oyon Ajmain

After years of being nice to people and constantly doing stuff for people without wanting anything back, I’ve finally realised what the world is really like. My dad messaged me the other day and he said “Son you need to realise that the world is not a perfect and good place, you are too naive and nice for your own good. Learn to say no.” So I tried to understand what my dad was saying and finally I realised.

There are a very few people in this world that do something for you without expecting something in return, very few people who just do something for you while knowing that you can’t do anything back for them at all. Most of the people in this world at the moment are concerned with how they’re going to make it in life and how they’re going to benefit from whatever they do. The same way when a woman wants to marry a man she tends to see if the man is giving her what she wants in terms of finance, good looks or moral support. If a woman marries a husband for financial stability and then the stability dissapears, then the woman will also dissapear and that’s how life is. That is how most human beings think at the moment.

Now as a muslim we are told to love each other for THE SAKE OF ALLAH. This statement is not just merely a statement. This statement is the core reason to why we should wake up at 3am in the morning and drive 100miles just because a brother we barely know is in distress. This statement means to love someone regardless how much they abuse you or use you. Even if the person you’re helping is an old man with no possesion to his name and has no ability to do anything for you, you still help him because that is love for the sake of Allah.

For us to act according to the statement to change the way the world works, we must first know and understand how the world works. This is the reason I have highlighted the negative side, so that we may learn from it and change the current situation the world is in inshaAllah.